Sometimes I lie… part 2
A few months ago I wrote “sometimes I lie in bed with my boyfriend and think about my ex”. Thought I’d give you an update and say that I still talk to him occasionally. However, he’s gotten back together with his previous girlfriend now and today decided we should cease all contact to avoid hurting her feelings. He cheated on her with me (I didn’t know at the time). It was funny because I spent months pining after him but when he suggested we stopped speaking, I just gave up and had a giggle. Like cutting the final thread or pulling a splinter out, I feel free from him. He wasn’t worth my time as a boyfriend, nor a friend. He doesn’t make any effort and realistically only cares about himself. I think I came to conclusion that I loved the moment of my life which coincided with our relationship, not the man himself! I wasn’t yearning for him, but a version of myself.
I am taking so much more pleasure coming to realise how enigmatic, caring and lovely my current boyfriend is - a year going strong !! - and I genuinely couldn’t be happier. I feel content knowing that all wounds do eventually heal, there is an expiration date on a broken heart and that you can’t forever love the ghosts of your past.